Life Decisions

Recently I have felt like Jared and I have to make some big decisions!  The thought of Jared picking a specialty that he wants to do for the rest of his life is becoming more real.  With that, an opportunity to do a post-sophomore fellowship has come up.  Jared has thrown around a few different specialties that he is interested in (OB, radiology, anesthesia, ENT etc) but the one he has talked about the most has been pathology.  I truly don't think I ever expected Jared to become a pathologist.  He works so well with people.  He is easy to talk to, makes people feel comfortable and just fun.  As a pathologist he wouldn't work as much with patients.  In some ways, that makes me sad a little bit.  BUT HE LOVES IT.  How can I complain about something that he seems to love.  He has been talking a lot to two of the pathology professors at his school and they have suggested he do the post-sophomore pathology fellowship at KU.  I didn't even know this was a thing.  Basically he will be doing what a first year resident does.  Lots of responsibilities.  It is a really amazing opportunity for Jared.  Part of me wants to jump out of my skin and say" absolutely, lets do it."  I do have some reservation though.  The main being financial reasons.  Jared would get paid $22,000 before taxes.  As a family of 4 that is hardly anything.  Especially since with that income he and I would get kicked off of medicaid and would need to pay for our own insurance.  Luckily our kids would still qualify.  The amount of money we get on food stamps would also decrease.  Money would be REALLY tight.  I don't want that to be the deciding factor but it does cause me some stress thinking about living off such a small budget.
My other reservation is the idea of adding another year onto school/training.  Not only do I feel like I am getting old, but I worry about our kids being old when we finish all of this.  I want to be settled and into a community and school and everything before their important teenage years.  I realize it's only one year, but it's something.
Another thought I have had is does Jared actually need this?  I know it will make him more competitive for residency but does he need it?  Pathology tends to be a specialty that attracts introverts, or people who don't like talking to patients and working with others.  Jared is far different than more pathology personalities.  I think he will already stand out in an interview compared to others.
I think the biggest reason I want Jared to do it is to really determine if he loves pathology.  I have been somewhat frustrated with how little exposure these med students get to various specialties before they have to decide what they want to do for the rest of their lives!  Often the doctor you work with determines whether you like it or not.  I do want Jared to have a clear idea of what he would be getting himself into, and this fellowship would allow that.
Overall, we need to receive promptings and revelation from the Spirit about what is best for our family.  Recently, President Nelson has really urged the members of the church to learn how to receive personal revelation.  It is a skill we need to develop if we want to spiritually survive in these last day.  What better time to practice and get better at receiving revelation than now when we have big life decisions ahead of us!  I am grateful for a prophet who is inspired and teaches us from God.